Oh dear; not only have the new outdoor table and chairs in the garden caused some additional confusion, especially when the sun shade is in position, though not necessarily open, the new, old-looking boot, has added to the confusion.

When dementia sets in it is nigh impossible to explain anything new and unusual. There is a nice garden view out of the window. The bird table given as a present, soon after the patient took up residence, is situated dead centre so that the feeding antics of all sorts of birds can be enjoyed. But this outdoor table and chairs have changed the accepted and familiar view.

You can explain till the cows come home that the boot is a pottery flower container with flowers in it, and it is okay to be sitting out in all weathers, decorating the table. You still hear “Oh dear, someone has left a boot out and it’s raining”.


Tonight I started to research dementia using Alzheimer’s (Scotland). The first link took me to advice for dementia sufferers. The different types of dementias and some common early symptoms were laid out very briefly and extremely simply. There was a section on discussing matters with your GP, involving your interested relatives or carer/s, the kinds of specialists you could be referred onto and the types of testing that might be done.

The publication for all its simplicity, covered a wide spectrum of issues, like the drugs that are known to assist, herbal remedies and their effectiveness, if any, and useful stimulation (also that which may not be useful).

At the end of the booklet was a fine listing of other relevant publications.

Two main thoughts struck me.

First, most people don’t go into researching the information available early enough to really benefit the sufferer, because the understanding of what may be developing and detectability of the early stages is difficult; even doctors may not recognise what is happening and they investigate for other illnesses.

Second, there is denial, disbelief understandable human defence mechanisms, and distress. By the time you do some research, it could be a problem well developed, so that, information contained in the early stage booklet brings awareness of systems and resources, rather too late. By then you may be in need of information on the progression of the disease, guidance on resources for the sufferer and any other help for the carer/s.